Most people have resilience and grief all wrong.
Becoming resilient amid devastation is not about getting through it in some sort of linear progression. This implies an ending; a final conclusion that does not exist.
Rather, resilience is found in learning to become just a bit more confident in the unbearably aching love grief leaves with you...
...and learning the compassion necessary to carry the uncomfortable, yearning, and weeping experiences that will be a part of you for the rest of your life.
There is no strength greater than the acceptance of this; the true, penetrating acceptance of the fact that our grief will never leave us...
...but choosing to live anyway. Choosing to serve anyway. Choosing to love anyway.
And choosing to fight for the memories of what was,
while standing with those who need us in the present reality of what is,
and living as well as we can to ensure we are available to the world in what is yet to come.
This is how we honor the dead...
...and this, my friends, is resilience.